Being principled under pressure.
Part of the reason there is so much interpersonal conflict in the workplace is because conversations quickly move from debating decisions to debating if one or the other person is right or wrong. The personification of an objective decision makes it unnecessarily subjective.
The good news is that it is easy to detect when this is happening. Usually you can see the tensions rise, and you might even see this in your own distinct physiological response (eg. heart rate rising, sweating, etc). Noticing this trigger can be empowering because you can predictably interrupt the conversation before it becomes toxic to ask — “what is the principle we will use to make this decision?”
This has worked pretty reliably in most situations for me for the past few years, and it occurred to me that I’ve offered it as a technique at least a dozen times this past year in 1:1 mentorship relationships as it seems to be a common occurrence and theme across most organizations.